April 29, 2013

r e s p e c t

I used to think respect was just something you gave to adults, but as I've gotten older, I've learned that respect needs to be the standard when interacting with any other human being. 

I've recently started weeding out friends. I hate the way that sounds, but I'm not sure how else to say it. I don't really see a need or have a desire to invest in people that don't respect me, encourage me, and uplift me. I don't think that is asking too much either. I think that should be the standard. People should be decent to one another.

I had an experience with a person who I felt disrespected me so much. This person was selfish, rude, and then tried to make my desire to be responsible a problem. I don't like that. I don't think that's fair.
I think the beautiful thing about friendships is that we're all in different places doing different things, but we get to be a part of other peoples journeys and support them in what they are doing.

Right now my journey is graduate school, working, and an internship. I'm busy. I would love to be able to be carefree and throw caution to the wind, but that's not what my life looks like right now.
It bothers me that there are certain people who refuse to respect that our lives look differently and we have different responsibilities. 

I love that my friends are all doing different things. I'm occasionally envious of the friends that are getting to do whatever they want and maybe some of my friends are occasionally envious of the situation that I'm in as well. Maybe they aren't, but that's not really the point of this all. The point is that we don't need to tolerate people in our lives who disrespect us and make us feel bad. Friendships should be beautiful and encouraging, not heavy and hard. Granted, there are periods of time where a friendship is hard or strenuous, but I don't think that means we have to tolerate disrespect.

I respect myself to know what I deserve, what I can offer, and what a healthy, adult relationship should look like. I will continue surrounding myself with people who love me, uplift me, challenge me, and respect me, but I will not allow selfish, rude, or disrespectful people to start chipping away at my life. 

[This rant is brought to you by a very frustrating Sunday, a tired brain from 
studying for finals, and a Monday morning (enough said).]



  1. "I think the beautiful thing about friendships is that we're all in different places doing different things, but we get to be a part of other peoples journeys and support them in what they are doing." Love this! I've definitely gone through periods when I've felt the need to weed out people from my life who were only bringing me down. We all deserve a strong network of people who love and support us not only in spite of our differences but because of them.

    1. I totally agree! It's been infuriating to be surrounded by people who I feel do more harm than good! I feel like we need to respect ourselves enough to know what we deserve- and that's people who love us!

  2. "Friendships should be beautiful and encouraging, not heavy and hard." YES to this. Yes to it all. We should surround ourselves with people who lift us up, not those who bring us down. Great insights, girl. :)


    1. It's so important to draw boundaries and I think it's something we feel guilty about, but we deserve so much more than people who bring poison into our lives! Thanks for dropping by Katie!

  3. I've had to let go of a few friendships since I've been engaged. Even though it's a hard thing to do, I've felt so much better because of it. Yes, it's sad to say goodbye to a friend, but if they're not really acting like one then shoot...SEE YA!

    I'm glad that you DO have some great friendships where those people understand that not everybody is going to be in the same place, doing the same thing at the exact same time. We all grow and change during different periods in our lives, and the true friends understand that and are still around.

    1. Oh I so agree Kasey. I always hate friendships changing, but there have been some recently where I've just thought "good riddance!"


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